What comes to mind when you hear these words? For some, the answer may feel like it has to be humiliation, or failure.
For other people the word meekness (softness of temper, gentleness, mildness, and submissiveness) may come to mind. The actual definition of humility is modesty in behavior, attitude, or spirit.
Proverbs 8:13 The fear of the LORD is hatred of evil. Pride and arrogance and the way of evil and perverted speech I hate.
Proverbs 11:2 When pride comes, then comes disgrace, but with the humble is wisdom.
Isaiah 2:11 The haughty looks of man shall be brought low, and the lofty pride of men shall be humbled, and the LORD alone will be exalted in that day.
Mark 7:20-23 And he said, “What comes out of a person is what defiles him. For from within, out of the heart of man, come evil thoughts, sexual immorality, theft, murder, adultery, coveting, wickedness, deceit, sensuality, envy, slander, pride, foolishness. All these evil things come from within, and they defile a person.”
God hates pride. Pride is a very dangerous heart posture. It says “I am good, I do not need anyone.” Or “I am right and everyone else is wrong.” Pride keeps us from walking in truth and from gaining wisdom.
Psalms 10:3-4 For the wicked boasts of the desires of his soul, and the one greedy for gain curses and renounces the LORD. In the pride of his face the wicked does not seek him; all his thoughts are, “There is no God.”
Pride separates us from God. In our relationships, pride also keeps us from reconciliation and love. C. S. Lewis, the author of the Narnia books, calls pride, “the complete anti-God state of mind.” Pride separates us from relationships, while humility makes it possible for those who want to be in relationship with us to draw near to us. When we are prideful, we often feel justified in our actions and in the way we act, but this keeps us separated from connecting with others.
In marriage, something that can help us to maintain unity, prioritize peace, and enjoy each other is knowing what Christ has done for us, the cost, and who we are in Him. When we walk in humility, there are many benefits, such as unity, safety in relationships, and trust. Humility is a powerful example to others and we can make quite a difference by having a humble heart.
Ways we can walk with each other in humility:
- Quickly acknowledge and address when hurt happens.
- When we sin, apologize, confess, repent, and HUG!
- Recognize we are both imperfect and need Jesus and love.
- We may not be right – don’t fight about it.
- Not putting yourself in a high position – don’t be demanding.
- Pray for humility and pray for your spouse!
- Agree with how God says to live, and live it out.