If you have been blessed by this show and would like to join the marriage after god podcast patron team, please visit marriageaftergod.com/patron — For many, the word intimacy is often associated with sex or physical connection. While the two things are forms of intimacy, the word itself can be used in many different situations. Merriam-Webster defines the word intimate as marked by a warm friendship developing through long association. This reminds us that intimacy develops over time. An intimate connection with your spouse is essential to marriage, but it takes intentionality and the willingness to commit to developing that part of your relationship. This word of course also refers to being engaged in, or involving sex or sexual relations. We know sex is important; it is a gift from God to married couples. At the same time, the belonging and closeness that comes with an intimate marriage relationship relies on a variety of factors and ways of being with your spouse. There are four areas that really lend themselves to a thriving connection with your husband or wife. These areas include:
- Emotional – Asking your spouse how they are feeling, and responding, encouraging and validating their emotions. Making sure you are present and in the moment with them.
- Physical – Asking your spouse if there is anything you can do to make them feel good. Taking time to be affectionate or playful together.
- Mental – Asking your spouse what they are thinking about at the given moment. Questions such as “What are you thinking about right now? Anything you are concerned about?” As well as ensuring you remind them of the truth, call out lies, compliment strengths, and share interests.
- Spiritual – Reading the word together, praying together, as well as worshiping or experiencing church together. Asking questions of one another such as, “Can I pray for you?” or “What has the Lord been teaching you lately?”