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When a husband prays for his wife, he opens the gates of heaven and carries her over the threshold, directly into the throne room of God. When a husband prays for his wife, he prays for himself, since they are one. When a husband prays for his wife, he lays himself down in order to raise her up. The question is, will he pray?
There is transformative power in a husband praying for his wife. The bible demonstrates how integral the role of prayer is in Christian faith and everyday life. In praying for his wife, a husband can pray for unity, protection, sanctification, joy, and mission, as inspired by Jesus’ High Priestly Prayer. As husbands, we are called to lead spiritually and support our wives emotionally, physically, and spiritually through prayer, which fosters an extraordinary marriage.
In its essence, prayer is talking to God. It is a gift of communication. We have direct access through Jesus to our Father in heaven. So we can pray to God, speak to him directly, and hear him through his Holy Spirit in his word directly. It is a form of communication; making requests known, and giving thanks.
Philippians 4:6-7 Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving, let your request be made known to God and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.
Prayer is not just our mouths moving, but also our spiritual ears and mouths engaging. To be still and silent is prayer.
But what is the purpose of prayer?
Proverbs 3:5-6 Trust in the Lord with all your heart and do not lead on your own understanding all your ways. Acknowledge him and he’ll make straight your paths.
We are dependent on the Lord, and prayer demonstrates our desire, and is an acknowledgment of our need to trust in him. When we are weak, we are strong, because in our weakness we can rely on the strength of Christ.
Additionally, through prayer, we seek God’s will and guidance, relying on him to lead us and to help us navigate our circumstances. We are to seek His will and His ways.
2 Corinthians 12: 8-10 But he said to me, God said to him, my grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness. Therefore, therefore I will boast all the more gladly of my weakness so that the power of Christ may rest upon me for the sake of Christ. Then I am content with weakness, insults, hardships, persecutions, calamities for when I am weak, that I am strong.
James 1:5 If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask God who gives generously to all without reproach and it will be given to him.
Prayer is also the means by which we confess and repent.
1 John 1:9 If we confess our sins, he’s faithful and he’s just to forgive our sins and cleanse us from all unrighteousness.
Furthermore, prayer is intercession. Especially when it comes to marriage, to be able to intercede for each other is a gift. For the husbands interceding, this is a mentality of what we are as warriors, as protectors, as someone who’s going to stand up and do something for their spouse, for their wife.
1 Timothy 2:1 First of all, then I urge that supplications, prayers, intercessions and thanksgiving be made for all people.
In Scripture, we find the biblical mandates to love and respect your wife, to love and honor your spouse, and for wives to respect their husbands. While this might not necessarily be a command for husbands to pray for their wives, Ephesians 5:25 directs us, Husbands love your wives as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her. Christ prayed for many things for his church. He prayed for his disciples and for all who would believe through the testimony his disciples give.
Here are 6 things you can start praying for your wife today:
- Pray for unity: with Christ, and in your marriage.
- Pray for protection from temptation, and for protection physically, emotionally, spiritually, and mentally.
- Pray for spiritual growth and sanctification: becoming more like Christ.
- Pray for joy.
- Pray for confidence and freedom from fear.
- Pray that she has an understanding of her purpose. And the influence she has to those around her.
This is not a magic trick to change your wife to better suit your own desires. That’s not what prayer is. We’re talking to God, who is to be feared and honored. But we can go privately to him and we can pray for things that are on our hearts. So let us go as husbands to the God of the universe and intercede on behalf of our other half, our wives.
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