Oswald Chambers once said, “We tend to use prayer as a last resort, but God wants it to be our first line of defense. We pray when there’s nothing else we can do, but God wants us to pray before we do anything at all.”
Oftentimes we pray in the midst of our despair, when we have exhausted all of our own wisdom and strength. When we don’t know what else to do, we finally humble ourselves and go to the One we hope will deliver us from the storm. But what would our marriages look like if we committed to a habit of prayer, surrendering to the Lord before any storm, listening to Him and letting Him lead us day in and day out, with our eyes set on Him?
In its essence, prayer is talking to God. In the Old Testament, the Jews needed someone to intercede for them. They had a high priest for sacrifices and everything else that was required by the law. But now we have direct access through Jesus to our Father in heaven. So we can pray to God, speak to him directly, and hear him through his Holy Spirit in his word directly. Prayer is communing with God; communicating with Him. It’s connecting intimately and closely with Him.
Prayer is also sharing your heart with him. It’s an offering of yourself, to make yourself known to him. Our father in heaven, our heavenly Father, wants us to come to him with everything; our burdens, our joys, our fears.
Prayer is also a time where we can just be with him to be still to listen: to be quiet long enough to hear from him.
Philippians 4:6-7 Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving, let your request be made known to God and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. This is a command for believers. He wants our hearts and our minds to be guarded, through the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding. We get that by praying in everything, and for everything. By lifting our requests and our supplications with thanksgiving.
When it comes to wives praying for their husbands, it can be difficult to know where to begin at times. To start, be sure to lead your heart in prayer with humility, earnestness and belief in the things that you are going to God for. Take the thoughts and things you have in your head and move them to your heart, and then pray about them.
Here is a list of things to be praying over your husband:
-Pray out loud and ask: “Can I pray for you, or is there anything I can be praying for you about?”
-Pray for him without ceasing. Throughout the day, be praying for your husband.
-Pray for his relationship with God.
-Pray for his confidence-his role as leader of the family, at work (Christ is in him and every opportunity to preach the Word)
-Pray for his job, and not simply just provision, but also that he would set an example for his coworkers and those around him.
-Pray for his health.
-Pray for his power of discernment, especially in distinguishing good from evil.
-Pray for his leadership.
Prayer is a powerful way to love your husband. When you are praying for your husband, you can believe and hope for things for him. Invite God into your marriage and ask him to shape and direct you and your husband.
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