In Matthew 6:10, Jesus teaches us to pray, “Your kingdom come, your will be done, on earth as it is in heaven.” As Christians, these should be the ultimate goals of our prayers – for God’s perfect will to shape everything on earth, including our marriages.
Yet if we’re honest, many of our prayers focus solely on our own comfort, desires, and agendas for marriage. We beg God to change our spouse or fix our problems. While bringing our needs to God is good, we must also pray with the motivation to see His kingdom advanced and His will accomplished.
This requires self-examination. Why do we really pray for our marriage? Is it from a sincere trust in God or a demand for Him to fulfill our expectations? Humbling ourselves before God requires releasing our tight grip on personal outcomes. Marriage is not about you and what you want; neither is it all about your spouse. Instead, yield your hearts to the Lord and acknowledge that your marriage has a far greater purpose than being the means by which you are fulfilled.
The more we pursue knowing God’s heart versus imposing our own agendas, the more our prayers will align with His perfect plan. Our personal dreams and desires will begin to align with His when we prioritize intimacy with Him.
Praying for God’s will also necessitates walking in obedience. We cannot ask Him to reign over our lives while refusing to submit to Him. A prayer life crying out for His kingdom must flow from a life increasingly yielding to His lordship.
This starts by obeying God’s revealed will in Scripture – choosing integrity in marriage, and extending grace to others. As we follow Christ wholeheartedly, our prayers take on new sincerity, earnestness, and authority.Let us remember to search our hearts and reshape our priorities in prayer. As we seek first His kingdom and righteousness, He promises to supply all we need (Matthew 6:33). As we humble ourselves, our desires will align with His purposes.