Serving is a powerful antidote to many marriage issues. It builds unity as you work as a team, and provides perspective when you pour into others’ lives. It gives the opportunity to utilize your unique gifts and talents together. And most importantly, it allows you to follow Jesus’ example and model servant leadership in the way He perfectly lived it out.
Jesus demonstrated perfect servant leadership by laying down His life for us. He calls us to follow His example by meeting each other’s needs in humility and sacrifice. Serving together as a couple provides benefits like deepening intimacy, creating memories, teaching your values to your children, inspiring your marriage, and discovering greater purpose.
“Christians serve others because we love Jesus. It’s because of what he’s done for us-and we serve people and others because we love them.”
My husband and I can attest to the power of united service. Some of our sweetest times have come while serving in youth ministry, nonprofits, or helping family and friends in their seasons of need. Making service a shared activity builds unity, perspective and utilizes our complimentary gifts.
Serving is also a powerful antidote to common marriage troubles like distraction, fatigue, conflict or discontentment with roles. Focusing outward gets your gaze off what you lack and onto how you can pour into others’ lives. It revitalizes passion and gives fresh vision for how you were created to make a unique impact.
“Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility, count others more significant than yourselves. Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interest of others.” Philippians 2:3
As Ecclesiastes 4:9 states, “Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor.” Imagine what needs in your community you and your spouse could meet together! What brokenness could you help heal?
Start by asking God to guide you and highlight areas He is calling you to invest in. Sign up to serve meals, build houses, provide job training, foster children, or utilize your artistic gifts. The opportunities are endless. Entering into humble service following in the footsteps of our Savior is incredibly empowering. Allow Jesus’ clear calling to influence how you and your spouse pass your days. Experience the blessings, inspiration and joy that serving together brings.
“The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have lived and lived well.”
-Ralph Waldo Emerson