Do you sometimes feel like giving up on your marriage? I know that I have felt like giving up at least once in my marriage. Every wife needs encouragement for marriage! Some may seriously be contemplating divorce, while others just need a little reminder of why marriage is so important. This is a perfect guest article from Shakera encouraging all wives to have hope for the miracle of restoration in marriage. Her message to all of us is: Don’t Give Up On Your Marriage! Enjoy and be blessed!
Shakera writes:
It is no surprise that the devil attacks so many marriages in the world today. It is one of the most important relationships that we as believers have.
John 10:10 says that the thief comes only to steal, kill, and destroy. When the enemy comes into our marriages he is looking to ruin generations to come, not just those in your household. So many are affected by divorce and separation, and it has long term affects on your children.
Being married to someone who has hurt you by adultery, addictions, and abuse whether physical, verbal, or emotional can be the most hurtful thing you can go through. Why? God says in His word in Genesis 2:23, “And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: She shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.” Mark 10:8 states, “And the two will become one flesh. So they are no longer two but one.” When you’re married you are now one flesh, so things are more devastating. It feels like there has been a death, and there has been. There’s been a death of trust, happiness, belief that anything good can come out of your marriage.
The enemy places things in your marriage so that he can end the relationship that he knows can bring so much Godly fruition into your life, your spouse, and your children.
When the enemy attacked my marriage it became personal. I was hurt, depressed, and devastated, but I knew that God was the only one who could bring me through. I didn’t know what to think or do and I felt like I was losing my mind. There were people telling me to get a divorce and move on with my life, that I deserved better, but all I wanted to do was what God wanted me to do and that is it. So I cried out to Him about what to do, begging Him to help me and He told me to trust Him.
I knew then that divorce wasn’t an option for me. I know that there are biblical reasons to get a divorce and I had the biblical right to do so, but I didn’t believe that was what God wanted me to do. I decided that day to stand for my marriage and to believe God for the miracle of marriage restoration. I never thought that I would be separated from my husband like this, but God’s thoughts are above my thoughts. And what the enemy means for harm God will turn it around for my good.
Yes people think I am crazy; they tell me that my husband has a mind of his own and knows what he’s doing. 2 Timothy 2:26 says, “They will come to their senses and escape from the trap of the devil, who has taken them captive to do his will.”
Some may support your stand for your marriage and your fight against the enemy, while some may totally disagree, but all that matters is that you do what God wants you to do. One day we will all have to face judgment and have to be responsible for the things we did. All those people who had opinions about your situation will not be with you when you have to answer to God. So you have to do what you know is right. We are married to God first above our spouses and He never divorces us.
Don’t Give Up On Your Marriage!
Some of you may be thinking “Well you don’t know what he/she said or did to me” and that is true I don’t, but I know from experience that if you pray and ask God for strength He will give you strength to do things that you never thought possible. I have been believing God for a miracle in my marriage restoration for almost two years. And yes it has been hard and there are times that I want to give up, but whenever I feel like that, God always gives me the strength to keep going.
One thing that I know is that God will never give up on me and my family. He has made me promises that I will always stand on before anything else. I will always pray for my husband because we are one so I can’t pray for myself without praying for him. I will not let the enemy win or have my family and you shouldn’t either. Our God has already defeated the devil so there is nothing that he can do to us. If God before us, who can be against us???
We have to stop giving the devil things that he doesn’t have rights to. He doesn’t have rights to our families, our dreams, our faith, our purpose, our jobs, etc.
“I have given you authority to trample on snakes and scorpions and to overcome all the power of the enemy; nothing will harm you.”- Luke 10:19
The devil wants you to think that there isn’t anything you can do, that your marriage is over, that your spouse doesn’t love you anymore, and that you’re better off without them. But God can change anyone.
If He changed Saul who killed Christians into Paul who later became a writer of some books in the bible, He can surely change your spouse and you also whether your spouse is an unbeliever or not because God is married to the backslider.
Don’t believe the lies of the enemy. It is never too late to do what is right for God. Fight for your marriage and family and don’t let the devil win. Don’t Give Up On Your Marriage!!!
Ezekiel 22:30 “I looked for a man among them who would build up the wall and stand before me in the gap on behalf of the land so I would not destroy it, but I found none.” Be the one to stand in the gap for your spouse and family. God Bless!!
– Shakera Causey
***Although this is encouragement many of us need to hear, there are situations that require more help than just encouragement. If you are in an abusive relationship please consider seeking safety and then seek professional help.